Momtourage Monday: American Girl in a Caribbean world

1. How would you define Momtourage?

My Momtourage is my family and close friends. My mom plays a major role in my Momtourage. The boys know her as “Honey”. She spends the night Monday-Friday to help with getting the boys ready for school as well so drop off at school. My family (aunts, grandmother, sister) helps with date night or just relief time. Our friends help with support and encouragement.

2. How do you balance Motherhood?

How do I balance Motherhood…umm I don’t. I’m still learning how to take time for me. Motherhood have taken over my life completely. Although, being a wife and mother is rewarding, it can also be stressful. If we are not careful, we can easily lose ourselves in the process of trying to build our families. Often, I tend to take care of my household and neglect myself. After, self evaluation … I’ve realized that, I  cannot give what I  don’t have. So now, when I need time to myself, I take time. Having boys,  I’m always busy, whether it’s straightening up after them, doing homework, or having to be at baseball, basketball practice or a school event. One of my goals this year is to get “me” back. I have a membership at Massage Envy and I try to go at least once a month as my “me day”. I’ve had my membership for about 4 years, but don’t go as much as I should.

3. What is your Mommy must have item?

Sorry…I had to make it plural…My phone and Jared’s epi pen is most important, both boys are asthmatic and Jared has severe allergies along with my planner is second- to make sure I have all their doctors appointments scheduled.

4. What is your Momtourage story?

My husband and I started our family the “non transitional” way as some may call it. We had Joshua, then got married,  when Joshua was 3, and had another child 3 years later. I was a “nontraditional” college graduate. I attended college at 25 years old. I finished up my degree while I was pregnant with Joshua.

I am a wife. My husband is from a small island in the Caribbean named Saint Kitts. Having a mixed cultural family makes us unique.  We have traveled to St. Kitts as a family 5 times. We usually travel to visit my husband family every other year during Christmas time. This new culture has made me open minded and taught me so many things. I have learned how to cook Caribbean foods. (Which I love, because I love cooking). I have also, sampled different Caribbean dishes that I never would have sampled prior to meeting my husband. I have also dressed up in a mascarade costume, during their carnival time. Having a mixed cultural family and living in the U.S. has it’s challenges.  The boys do not get to see their extended family often. We usually communicate with my in laws through social media. Visiting St. Kitts has taught the boys and I about small island Caribbean culture. Traveling has taught us how to be open minded to any culture that we may come across in life.

Thank you so much Shaketa for sharing your story! As always we hope these stories encourage, or inspire other moms and moms to be!

Until next week….

XO,

Meka

Momtourage Monday: SAHM staying true to herself!

1. How would you define Momtourage? 

To me, a momtourage sounds like a really bomb sisterhood! I love and will forever appreciate moms supporting, uplifting and encouraging one another. Community as a mama is so important and we all go through ups and downs during our parenting journey; a momtourage reminds us that we’re not alone and that we’re all in this together.

2. How do you balance Motherhood? 

Lots of coffee and Jesus (ha!) but in all honesty, I do plan my week out in advance to be able to fit writing, home and family time in. I do my best to not over crowd my schedule and learned the art of saying no nicely. I like to keep it simple, and I’ve accepted that I can’t do everything. Scaling back has allowed me to do more really well. Motherhood is a 24hr, 365 job and when you’re trying to do so many things in a day, less is more.

3. What is your Mommy must have item? 

Hands down, my planner! It kinda has my whole life embedded in those pages. I don’t know what I would do without it. Probably buy a new one I guess, it’s just that important to me!

4. What is your Momtourage story?

My husband Shawn and I are proud parents to our almost four month old son Isaiah who was born in November of 2017. I went into labor Halloween night and he was born via c-section the very next day. I’ve struggled with not being able to breastfeed as well as dealing with a tough recovery from a major operation. I started blogging about motherhood and taking photos of my son since the day he was born but from the very beginning wanted my online presence to be as authentic as possible. I’ve dealt with feelings of inadequacy very heavily when entering the instamom scene, mostly because I would see other women with beautiful homes and expensive clothes on their babies. I love the thrift store and was rockin’ sweat shirts and spit up stained leggings in most of my photos! There was a point where I longed to be exactly like everyone else and wanted to dress up my reality to match what I saw. After thinking about who I was and what kind of writer I wanted to become, I knew doing so wouldn’t capture how much I love my everyday motherhood moments- baby drool and all! Each woman has her own special story to tell, mines just so happens to be in my pajamas. So I write and take photos about all kinds of things things that inspire me, but it’s mostly how much I love being Isaiah’s mommy. I hope that through my content/ feed that message is can inspire someone to be the best version of themselves. You are more than enough!

Be sure to check out more of Najah and her amazing family Here

Thank you so much Najah for sharing your story! As always we hope these stories encourage, or inspire other moms and moms to be!

Until next week….

XO,

Meka

Girls Run The World

AG or American Girl Dolls as we all know are the “it” dolls for girls both young and old. Many of you know that our tradition for the past couple of years is to get Elle an American Girl doll for Christmas, so of course we were ecstatic when given the opportunity to partner with American Girl and tell you all about the new girl of the year Luciana.

We were so thrilled when we heard that Luciana encourages STEM and she’s an aspiring Astronaut. As black mom I am personally so excited when I see companies with diversity! Representation is so important to all brown girls and Luciana doesn’t disappoint. Elle loves reading the stories about all of her AG dolls. Each story is so unique and inspiring.

Luciana is just as stylish as Elle, from the purple streaks of hair to her cosmic dress and hologram doc marten inspired boots, as well as her cute choker and awesome fanny pack. I truly believe that Elle and Luciana are kindred spirits when it comes to style!

I asked Elle what was her favorite thing about her American Girls dolls and without a beat she said reading their stories and playing with them all day. Currently we live in a technology driven world where kids are glued to tv’s, iPads, video games and no longer being KIDS! I love that Elle still loves playing with her dolls for hours. Before Elle got her first AG doll at age 3, she played with her Aunties AG dolls. That’s when we knew she was ready.

Several dolls later she still has the same excitement she had 4 years ago. Be sure to check out all that American Girl has to offer, there is truly a doll for everyone. And cheers to Luciana the doll of the year! Elle is already plotting on getting the astronaut outfit.

Did you grow up with AG dolls? Do you buy them for your little one? If so share with us which dolls you have at home. Until next time….

XO,

Meka

Health is Wealth

*** This is NOT a sponsored post we just love it THAT much****

So many of you follow me on Instagram and if so you’ve seen our Instastory of me and the boys at the chiropractor. I have been getting lots of questions about why we go to the chiropractor so I decided to sum it all up right here! First off let me say we LOVE Twin City Health

As many of you know I suffer from Rheumatoid Arthritis, and have been since age 17! Yesssssss S E V E N T E E N. I get adjustments to assist with the pain management of my RA. This was so needed when I was pregnant with Axel, because for some reason my RA took the worst toll on my body, to the point that I had to go out of work on short term disability.

When Jagger was about 9-11 months old he would have issues using with his bowels. I would try so many natural remedies including prune juice with warm water. Once he started getting his adjustments at Twin City Health he was as regular as any normal baby. I seriously could not believe it, if you know me you know how I am when it comes to proving stuff I need PROOF!

I have never really talked about this topic, maybe because I don’t want anyone to look at my child in any other way that the vibrate, engeretic little boy that he is, so only a select few close friends and family know that Maveric was suffering from Febrile Seizures since 18 months old. If you’re not familiar with the term, basically when Maveric gets sick/ congested his temperature would spike so fast that his body needed to break the fever so it would force him to have a seizure. Most children tend to “out grow” febrile seizures by age 5.

We started seeing Dr. Tom and his team at Twin City Health when Maveric was 3. During our process we went from almost 1 seizure every other month to 1 seizure every 6-8 months. Last year we ALMOST made it a year seizure free then Maveric had one at school in October. When we went to Twin City Health Dr. Tom took x-rays of Maveric’s spine and that helped him to really narrow down the location that needed to be adjusted with Maveric. I have noticed a huge improvement in Maveric’s decline in seizures and I truly look forward to the day that we are 100% seizure FREE!!!!!!

Axel has been going just for preventative reasons, one day I told Dr. J that he hadn’t had a BM in 3 days and she adjusted him and said ” ok be careful he should have one by the end of the day” and no lie he let out the biggest BM by the time we got home!

“Your spine is the lifeline for all of your body’s functions. The spine is a key element to healing as it protects your central nervous system”. All of the doctors at Twin City Health have truly been a dream to work with, we just love the entire atmosphere! If you’re looking to get healthy from the outside in, then you really need to check out our friends at Twin City Health. Tell them that #HWTH sent you. Trust me you will love the family environment and the wealth of information and classes. Cheers to a healthier 2018. Until next time…

XO,
Meka

Momtourage Monday: Jet Setting Momma

1. How would you define Momtourage?

To me momtourage is a tribe that doesn’t judge, a sisterhood that’s there to pick you up when you’re down and it’s a way of life!

2. How do you balance Motherhood?

I balance motherhood by doing what I love the most which is work. You’re probably going to think I’m crazy for but I love going to work. I feel so refreshed those 3 days that I’m gone and get to interact with adults. I also see it as a mini vacation. I get to do my hair, my nails and most importantly rest. It’s something that’s always been a challenge when I’m home since I have two under two.

3. What is your Mommy must have item?

My camera! It was a gift when I had my first born but didn’t start using it till recently. It’s definitely been the best investment ever to have pictures of my girls as they grow up.

4. What is your Momtourage story?

Let’s see where do I begin… my husband and I are high school sweethearts. We’ve been together for almost 15 years and married for almost 5. Becoming parents has made our relationship more special and stronger. I can definitely say that I love this version of us so much more than the just us two version. He’s always been a very supportive husband and even with my crazy difficult flying schedule he still holds it down for us. I’m very lucky in this aspect and so are our girls!

I also suffered PPD after having my first child. It was such a dark time in my life but someone told me to never loose sight of who I was before having a baby. That if I loved flying to continue to fly. That I should never give up own my own dreams because my girls will have their own at some point and leave the nest. This always stuck with me and ever since then I’ve decided to be a better me for them. Mamas always remember self care is the most important thing after becoming a mother, don’t you ladies ever forget that!

Love always,

Maggie Tompkins

Be sure to check out more of Maggie and her amazing family Here

Thank you so much Maggie for sharing your story! As always we hope these stories encourage, or inspire other moms and moms to be!

Until next week….

XO,

Meka

Momtourage Monday: Peaceful Momma

1. How would you define Momtourage?

Momtourage is my peace. It’s a space of understanding and reassurance that everything you’re doing is just fine. I’m forever grateful for my tribe.

2. How do you balance Motherhood?

I’m honestly still learning Motherhood, being a full time mom, student, and business owner , I often have to step back and just simply put down my phone, or just put off my todo list until the next day. To me balancing motherhood is being able to be like water, and to know it’s okay to change your mind, and it’s totally okay to not complete all you desired. Balancing Motherhood is also letting go of the fear and guilt of taking a couple of hours to yourself. It’s easy to loose yourself in Motherhood, I just remind myself that I’m no good for anyone including myself pouring from an empty cup.

3. What are your Mommy must have items?

(I have a couple)

My mommy must have is a cup of Musa Moon Tea or Fruit Detox Water . Both give me that moment of relaxation and encouragement for the day.

My crystals whether it be in my Head Wrap or my jewelry. Grounding, Protection, Prosperity , Peace, Patience, and Love are all things I seek to obtain. Each stone I carry helps support and enhance the energy and power I already carry.

A journal : For the many downloads I receive a day, to release anything that maybe taking up unnecessary space, and for my several attempts of planning my week.

4. What is your Momtourage story?

My story of Motherhood is a journey of truth and understanding. Becoming a single mother when my Sun was about 7 months, was a true product of an energy I manifested. Growing up I would always say I NEVER wanted to be a single mom. I would have never imagined my life to be this way.

I went through ALL of the self inflicted pain of emotions- feeling embarrassed, ashamed, unworthy, insecure, and failure.

Present day I wouldn’t change a thing. I’m grateful for EVERY part of my journey. Without pain I wouldn’t have faced my fears, Without pain I wouldn’t have had the courage to truly walk in the path of my life’s purpose.

Today I walk with my head high, alongside of my Young King. During my healing process, I quit my job and started my own business. Today that leap of trusting self is still evolving.

Don’t be afraid to heal yourself.

I gave myself the permission to feel and the space to process my human experience. My journey required me to truly connect within to what I needed to be full and to be the Best Mom to MY standards to my Sun. Motherhood has taught me to NEVER compare myself to anyone. I may not have the Motherhood journey according to the American Dream, but I am happy, Musa is filled with joy and wants for nothing.

Motherhood has taught me to be open to new possibilities and ways of thinking. Motherhood is honestly what you make it. It’s not a race nor competition. It reminds me that there are no true guidelines in your success or happiness in your journey. Everyone’s experience is different, and that is totally okay.

You are Worthy

You are Loved

You are Powerful

Thank you so much Brea for sharing your story! As always we hope these stories encourage, or inspire other moms and moms to be!

Until next week….

XO,

Meka