Momtourage Monday: American Girl in a Caribbean world

1. How would you define Momtourage?

My Momtourage is my family and close friends. My mom plays a major role in my Momtourage. The boys know her as “Honey”. She spends the night Monday-Friday to help with getting the boys ready for school as well so drop off at school. My family (aunts, grandmother, sister) helps with date night or just relief time. Our friends help with support and encouragement.

2. How do you balance Motherhood?

How do I balance Motherhood…umm I don’t. I’m still learning how to take time for me. Motherhood have taken over my life completely. Although, being a wife and mother is rewarding, it can also be stressful. If we are not careful, we can easily lose ourselves in the process of trying to build our families. Often, I tend to take care of my household and neglect myself. After, self evaluation … I’ve realized that, I  cannot give what I  don’t have. So now, when I need time to myself, I take time. Having boys,  I’m always busy, whether it’s straightening up after them, doing homework, or having to be at baseball, basketball practice or a school event. One of my goals this year is to get “me” back. I have a membership at Massage Envy and I try to go at least once a month as my “me day”. I’ve had my membership for about 4 years, but don’t go as much as I should.

3. What is your Mommy must have item?

Sorry…I had to make it plural…My phone and Jared’s epi pen is most important, both boys are asthmatic and Jared has severe allergies along with my planner is second- to make sure I have all their doctors appointments scheduled.

4. What is your Momtourage story?

My husband and I started our family the “non transitional” way as some may call it. We had Joshua, then got married,  when Joshua was 3, and had another child 3 years later. I was a “nontraditional” college graduate. I attended college at 25 years old. I finished up my degree while I was pregnant with Joshua.

I am a wife. My husband is from a small island in the Caribbean named Saint Kitts. Having a mixed cultural family makes us unique.  We have traveled to St. Kitts as a family 5 times. We usually travel to visit my husband family every other year during Christmas time. This new culture has made me open minded and taught me so many things. I have learned how to cook Caribbean foods. (Which I love, because I love cooking). I have also, sampled different Caribbean dishes that I never would have sampled prior to meeting my husband. I have also dressed up in a mascarade costume, during their carnival time. Having a mixed cultural family and living in the U.S. has it’s challenges.  The boys do not get to see their extended family often. We usually communicate with my in laws through social media. Visiting St. Kitts has taught the boys and I about small island Caribbean culture. Traveling has taught us how to be open minded to any culture that we may come across in life.

Thank you so much Shaketa for sharing your story! As always we hope these stories encourage, or inspire other moms and moms to be!

Until next week….

XO,

Meka

Momtourage Monday: SAHM staying true to herself!

1. How would you define Momtourage? 

To me, a momtourage sounds like a really bomb sisterhood! I love and will forever appreciate moms supporting, uplifting and encouraging one another. Community as a mama is so important and we all go through ups and downs during our parenting journey; a momtourage reminds us that we’re not alone and that we’re all in this together.

2. How do you balance Motherhood? 

Lots of coffee and Jesus (ha!) but in all honesty, I do plan my week out in advance to be able to fit writing, home and family time in. I do my best to not over crowd my schedule and learned the art of saying no nicely. I like to keep it simple, and I’ve accepted that I can’t do everything. Scaling back has allowed me to do more really well. Motherhood is a 24hr, 365 job and when you’re trying to do so many things in a day, less is more.

3. What is your Mommy must have item? 

Hands down, my planner! It kinda has my whole life embedded in those pages. I don’t know what I would do without it. Probably buy a new one I guess, it’s just that important to me!

4. What is your Momtourage story?

My husband Shawn and I are proud parents to our almost four month old son Isaiah who was born in November of 2017. I went into labor Halloween night and he was born via c-section the very next day. I’ve struggled with not being able to breastfeed as well as dealing with a tough recovery from a major operation. I started blogging about motherhood and taking photos of my son since the day he was born but from the very beginning wanted my online presence to be as authentic as possible. I’ve dealt with feelings of inadequacy very heavily when entering the instamom scene, mostly because I would see other women with beautiful homes and expensive clothes on their babies. I love the thrift store and was rockin’ sweat shirts and spit up stained leggings in most of my photos! There was a point where I longed to be exactly like everyone else and wanted to dress up my reality to match what I saw. After thinking about who I was and what kind of writer I wanted to become, I knew doing so wouldn’t capture how much I love my everyday motherhood moments- baby drool and all! Each woman has her own special story to tell, mines just so happens to be in my pajamas. So I write and take photos about all kinds of things things that inspire me, but it’s mostly how much I love being Isaiah’s mommy. I hope that through my content/ feed that message is can inspire someone to be the best version of themselves. You are more than enough!

Be sure to check out more of Najah and her amazing family Here

Thank you so much Najah for sharing your story! As always we hope these stories encourage, or inspire other moms and moms to be!

Until next week….

XO,

Meka

Girls Run The World

AG or American Girl Dolls as we all know are the “it” dolls for girls both young and old. Many of you know that our tradition for the past couple of years is to get Elle an American Girl doll for Christmas, so of course we were ecstatic when given the opportunity to partner with American Girl and tell you all about the new girl of the year Luciana.

We were so thrilled when we heard that Luciana encourages STEM and she’s an aspiring Astronaut. As black mom I am personally so excited when I see companies with diversity! Representation is so important to all brown girls and Luciana doesn’t disappoint. Elle loves reading the stories about all of her AG dolls. Each story is so unique and inspiring.

Luciana is just as stylish as Elle, from the purple streaks of hair to her cosmic dress and hologram doc marten inspired boots, as well as her cute choker and awesome fanny pack. I truly believe that Elle and Luciana are kindred spirits when it comes to style!

I asked Elle what was her favorite thing about her American Girls dolls and without a beat she said reading their stories and playing with them all day. Currently we live in a technology driven world where kids are glued to tv’s, iPads, video games and no longer being KIDS! I love that Elle still loves playing with her dolls for hours. Before Elle got her first AG doll at age 3, she played with her Aunties AG dolls. That’s when we knew she was ready.

Several dolls later she still has the same excitement she had 4 years ago. Be sure to check out all that American Girl has to offer, there is truly a doll for everyone. And cheers to Luciana the doll of the year! Elle is already plotting on getting the astronaut outfit.

Did you grow up with AG dolls? Do you buy them for your little one? If so share with us which dolls you have at home. Until next time….

XO,

Meka

Health is Wealth

*** This is NOT a sponsored post we just love it THAT much****

So many of you follow me on Instagram and if so you’ve seen our Instastory of me and the boys at the chiropractor. I have been getting lots of questions about why we go to the chiropractor so I decided to sum it all up right here! First off let me say we LOVE Twin City Health

As many of you know I suffer from Rheumatoid Arthritis, and have been since age 17! Yesssssss S E V E N T E E N. I get adjustments to assist with the pain management of my RA. This was so needed when I was pregnant with Axel, because for some reason my RA took the worst toll on my body, to the point that I had to go out of work on short term disability.

When Jagger was about 9-11 months old he would have issues using with his bowels. I would try so many natural remedies including prune juice with warm water. Once he started getting his adjustments at Twin City Health he was as regular as any normal baby. I seriously could not believe it, if you know me you know how I am when it comes to proving stuff I need PROOF!

I have never really talked about this topic, maybe because I don’t want anyone to look at my child in any other way that the vibrate, engeretic little boy that he is, so only a select few close friends and family know that Maveric was suffering from Febrile Seizures since 18 months old. If you’re not familiar with the term, basically when Maveric gets sick/ congested his temperature would spike so fast that his body needed to break the fever so it would force him to have a seizure. Most children tend to “out grow” febrile seizures by age 5.

We started seeing Dr. Tom and his team at Twin City Health when Maveric was 3. During our process we went from almost 1 seizure every other month to 1 seizure every 6-8 months. Last year we ALMOST made it a year seizure free then Maveric had one at school in October. When we went to Twin City Health Dr. Tom took x-rays of Maveric’s spine and that helped him to really narrow down the location that needed to be adjusted with Maveric. I have noticed a huge improvement in Maveric’s decline in seizures and I truly look forward to the day that we are 100% seizure FREE!!!!!!

Axel has been going just for preventative reasons, one day I told Dr. J that he hadn’t had a BM in 3 days and she adjusted him and said ” ok be careful he should have one by the end of the day” and no lie he let out the biggest BM by the time we got home!

“Your spine is the lifeline for all of your body’s functions. The spine is a key element to healing as it protects your central nervous system”. All of the doctors at Twin City Health have truly been a dream to work with, we just love the entire atmosphere! If you’re looking to get healthy from the outside in, then you really need to check out our friends at Twin City Health. Tell them that #HWTH sent you. Trust me you will love the family environment and the wealth of information and classes. Cheers to a healthier 2018. Until next time…

XO,
Meka

Momtourage Monday: Jet Setting Momma

1. How would you define Momtourage?

To me momtourage is a tribe that doesn’t judge, a sisterhood that’s there to pick you up when you’re down and it’s a way of life!

2. How do you balance Motherhood?

I balance motherhood by doing what I love the most which is work. You’re probably going to think I’m crazy for but I love going to work. I feel so refreshed those 3 days that I’m gone and get to interact with adults. I also see it as a mini vacation. I get to do my hair, my nails and most importantly rest. It’s something that’s always been a challenge when I’m home since I have two under two.

3. What is your Mommy must have item?

My camera! It was a gift when I had my first born but didn’t start using it till recently. It’s definitely been the best investment ever to have pictures of my girls as they grow up.

4. What is your Momtourage story?

Let’s see where do I begin… my husband and I are high school sweethearts. We’ve been together for almost 15 years and married for almost 5. Becoming parents has made our relationship more special and stronger. I can definitely say that I love this version of us so much more than the just us two version. He’s always been a very supportive husband and even with my crazy difficult flying schedule he still holds it down for us. I’m very lucky in this aspect and so are our girls!

I also suffered PPD after having my first child. It was such a dark time in my life but someone told me to never loose sight of who I was before having a baby. That if I loved flying to continue to fly. That I should never give up own my own dreams because my girls will have their own at some point and leave the nest. This always stuck with me and ever since then I’ve decided to be a better me for them. Mamas always remember self care is the most important thing after becoming a mother, don’t you ladies ever forget that!

Love always,

Maggie Tompkins

Be sure to check out more of Maggie and her amazing family Here

Thank you so much Maggie for sharing your story! As always we hope these stories encourage, or inspire other moms and moms to be!

Until next week….

XO,

Meka

Momtourage Monday: Peaceful Momma

1. How would you define Momtourage?

Momtourage is my peace. It’s a space of understanding and reassurance that everything you’re doing is just fine. I’m forever grateful for my tribe.

2. How do you balance Motherhood?

I’m honestly still learning Motherhood, being a full time mom, student, and business owner , I often have to step back and just simply put down my phone, or just put off my todo list until the next day. To me balancing motherhood is being able to be like water, and to know it’s okay to change your mind, and it’s totally okay to not complete all you desired. Balancing Motherhood is also letting go of the fear and guilt of taking a couple of hours to yourself. It’s easy to loose yourself in Motherhood, I just remind myself that I’m no good for anyone including myself pouring from an empty cup.

3. What are your Mommy must have items?

(I have a couple)

My mommy must have is a cup of Musa Moon Tea or Fruit Detox Water . Both give me that moment of relaxation and encouragement for the day.

My crystals whether it be in my Head Wrap or my jewelry. Grounding, Protection, Prosperity , Peace, Patience, and Love are all things I seek to obtain. Each stone I carry helps support and enhance the energy and power I already carry.

A journal : For the many downloads I receive a day, to release anything that maybe taking up unnecessary space, and for my several attempts of planning my week.

4. What is your Momtourage story?

My story of Motherhood is a journey of truth and understanding. Becoming a single mother when my Sun was about 7 months, was a true product of an energy I manifested. Growing up I would always say I NEVER wanted to be a single mom. I would have never imagined my life to be this way.

I went through ALL of the self inflicted pain of emotions- feeling embarrassed, ashamed, unworthy, insecure, and failure.

Present day I wouldn’t change a thing. I’m grateful for EVERY part of my journey. Without pain I wouldn’t have faced my fears, Without pain I wouldn’t have had the courage to truly walk in the path of my life’s purpose.

Today I walk with my head high, alongside of my Young King. During my healing process, I quit my job and started my own business. Today that leap of trusting self is still evolving.

Don’t be afraid to heal yourself.

I gave myself the permission to feel and the space to process my human experience. My journey required me to truly connect within to what I needed to be full and to be the Best Mom to MY standards to my Sun. Motherhood has taught me to NEVER compare myself to anyone. I may not have the Motherhood journey according to the American Dream, but I am happy, Musa is filled with joy and wants for nothing.

Motherhood has taught me to be open to new possibilities and ways of thinking. Motherhood is honestly what you make it. It’s not a race nor competition. It reminds me that there are no true guidelines in your success or happiness in your journey. Everyone’s experience is different, and that is totally okay.

You are Worthy

You are Loved

You are Powerful

Thank you so much Brea for sharing your story! As always we hope these stories encourage, or inspire other moms and moms to be!

Until next week….

XO,

Meka

Momtourage Monday: Killing it in Silicon Valley

1. How do you define Momtourage?

Momtourage is my tribe. My village. My circle of support from moms I personally know

and ones in my extended network. They offer affirmations, prayers, cheers, and words of encouragement and help me understand that I am not alone and we are on this journey together.

2. How do you balance Motherhood?

As a first-time mom, it’s about prioritizing and understanding what is important to me and my family. I was in several leadership positions within my church and sorority and decided to take a step back once my son arrived so that I could shift my focus and completely focus on him. Once my son became a bit older and I had a better view on balancing everything, I was able to resume my duties in my roles. My husband is super amazing and has constantly challenged me to take more “me time” and indulge in self – care, so I’m learning to do that more as well so that I can feel energized and renewed for my husband and son. Whether it’s a regular visit to the hair salon, my manicure and pedicure appointments, a coffee or smoothie break, or sleeping in for an extra hour, these little moments allow me to maintain my sanity.

3. What is your Mommy must have item?

My iPhone X for the amazing portrait option + battery chargers! I keep a charger in my bag as well as in my car so that I’m always ready to capture those special moments.

4. What is your Momtourage story?

My husband and I moved to Silicon Valley almost 3 years ago after my husband was recruited to work at a large tech company. It was a huge move for us since we are both from North Carolina and Virginia. Being 3,000 miles away from family was definitely hard (still is) and became even more challenging as we began planning for our family. Since we do not have any close relatives here, we have learned to depend on our church family, friends who are like family, neighbors, coworkers and sorority sisters and fraternity brothers to fill in the gap during this new season of our lives. It can be frustrating at times when we want to have a real date, spend a night away or attend an evening function because our parents aren’t readily available but we always think of creative ways to spend time together.

A month after I returned from maternity leave, I was given the opportunity to craft my role and was promoted. Around the same time, my husband was tasked with taking on additional responsibilities at work. While we’ve excelled in our careers, it’s also required us to make sacrifices and balance more effectively. I had a huge meeting planned with one of my new board members at a large tech company along with my local and national presidents. My son was not feeling well, so my husband and I had to make an executive decision that he would stay home and cancel one of his meetings as it was important that I attend this meeting and enjoy my moment with our national president. It’s a blessing to be able to able to be a super hero at work as well as a mommy hero at home. Motherhood is a huge balancing act, but I wouldn’t change any of it for the world.

Thank you so much Candrice for sharing your story! As always we hope these stories encourage, or inspire other moms and moms to be!

Until next week….

XO,

Meka

Momtourage Monday- Untraditional Momma

1. How would you define Momtourage?

Momtourage is the group of women who are my sounding boards, who lift me and my family up in prayer, who hold me accountable. These are the women who are rooting for me, but will still tell it like it is and then give me the space and encouragement to make my own decision. These are women who have raised or are raising children and whose experiences inspire, educate, and motivate me to be the best mom I can be … even when I feel like I don’t have the capacity to do so.

2. How do you balance Motherhood?

I don’t know that you can balance motherhood. To me, balance means everything in equal parts and I haven’t figured out how to do that just yet lol. More than balance, I think it’s important to have boundaries to protect your peace and time. For example: Like a lot of working moms, my work email comes to my cell phone so it’s easy for me to always be “plugged in” without even realizing. So one of my boundaries is to not have my phone out at dinner or during family time in the evening, which protects my time with my husband and kids and, conversely, protects the time when I really need to be focused on work.

3. What is your Mommy must have item?

My phone, no question. My kids are 14 and 10 so they have obligations and activities that I need to keep up with in addition to my own. Specifically, the calendar where I not only capture all the dates but also text the calendar entries to my husband so they’re on his calendar; group texts so we can all communicate when we’re not together; the camera so I can capture our moments/memories; email so I can send messages on the go….I can go on and on.

4. What is your Momtourage story?

I was a relatively young mother. Some disagree but, for me, 20 years old was young to be responsible for a tiny human. And because we were so young, my husband (then boyfriend) and I were still trying to learn ourselves as young adults while also learning how to parent and dealing with this new dynamic in our relationship of having a baby. It made for some trying times to say the least. But we persevered.

After we had our daughter, people continued to ask, “when are you two getting married?” and our answer was always “when we’re ready.” See, our family was in a good place and we felt confident in our ability to co-parent, but we knew marriage would tap into a different set of emotions; require a different level of commitment and responsibility … and a different mindset, quite frankly. So, when WE were ready, we got married. And I tell people to this day, almost eight years later, that there was something very special about being able to share our wedding day as a family. Beyond our wedding day, I love that we’ve built our life as a family. Meaning, our children have been there every step of the way – college graduations, new jobs, buying our first home, new cars, traveling, etc.

My point in sharing this story is to hopefully inspire moms to build your family, your way. There’s no shame in doing things in a manner that works best for your family, even if it’s considered “untraditional” by someone else’s standards.

Thank you so much Angela for sharing your story! Check out more from Angela here. As always we hope these stories encourage, or inspire other moms and moms to be!

Until next week….

XO,

Meka

Museum Of Ice Cream 🍦

If you haven’t heard the hype, you’re truly missing out! Yesterday I had the chance to venture out to Miami to visit the Museum of Ice Cream. Yes you read correctly, there is a museum dedicated to Ice Cream and it’s a blogger and photographers dream.

Just as you’ve all seen on Instagram, the rooms exude color and the vibe is fun. The museum is currently located on Collins as many of you know, they just closed the one in LA, aside from these locations there is also a San Francisco location.

As a lover of all things PINK, I was in heaven when I walked inside. First we were greeted by the Ice Cream tarot reader and she was a true character.

After meeting the tarot reader we had to come up with our “ice cream” names so I conveniently used the name “Sprinkle Meek” as in sprinkle me…. Cheesy perhaps but it was all in good fun.

The sprinkle pool was as cool as I’ve seen on Instagram. This is the only timed location, since it’s so popular. They gave us about 2 minutes to snap away and enjoy before the next group entered.

Oh and if you’re wondering, no the sprinkles are not real. They are plastic replicas actually. Still fun and great for photo opps.

I felt like a kid again! I was so amazed by the colors, the staff was so friendly and engaging. Be sure to come with a sweet tooth because you get to indulge in some delicious desserts like key lime ice cream cones, chocolate covered bananas and melted ice cream drink, which literally taste like MELTED ICE CREAM 🍦

The hands on exhibits made for a fun adventure and there were several children in the museum young and OLD.

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Although the tickets were more than I would normally pay for a museum,($38 a pop) I feel like the experience was totally worth it!

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If you’re able to snag some tickets I would highly recommend doing it ASAP, they sell out daily and they are limited to 2,000 tickets per day!

This just reminds me of how there are so many ways to make money out here! Utilize your creativity and always think outside the box. Seriously a freaking pop up museum of all ICE CREAM! This has been such a successful and innovative business venture and believe me there will be many other pop ups in the near future!

Be sure to check out the gift shop as well!

You can score anything from Sprinkle crowns, socks, a glass backgammon set to whip cream!

If you get a chance to visit be sure to comment below or tag me in Instagram! Until next time…..

XO,

Meka

Baby Share items ages 6 months & Up

I get asked this question all the time so I figured why not share all of the baby gear that’s making Mommying super easy for me! Well here ya go:

1. Dock A Tot Grand

Most of you have already seen my review of the deluxe and I absolutely LOVED it and since Axel has grown so much it was time for him to move on up to the Grand. As always I think this is such a wonderful sleeping option for Axel. Especially for co-sleeping and now at this age traveling. This is the best item for us to take when we are headed out of town so that Axel is able to sleep comfortably. We also let he take his naps in it throughout the day by simply placing it on the floor or at home in his crib. And to make travel Uber convenient you can grab the travel bag as well! I love that Axel will have plenty if space and time to grow into this because it goes up to age 36 months.

2. Tula Carriers and Blankets

As seen in the picture above, Axel lovessss snuggling with his super soft Tula blankets. Each Tula blanket is made from 100% viscose from bamboo which makes them breathable as well as comfy.

Next up of course the amazing carriers! Many of you see me baby wearing Axel, he loves it! We traveled to San Diego with it, I use it while I’m cleaning the house and Axel wants love. I pretty much keep this carrier in my car!

Baby wearing is the perfect alternative to lugging a bulky stroller around! I’ve been so blessed to work with the Tula team as a brand ambassador and it’s been nothing short of amazing! Check out more carrier options here. Axel has the free to grown and I love that it goes from 7lbs to 45lbs.

3. Nuby Products

As you’ve seen on my Instastory we LOVE Nuby products. I love making baby food for Axel and. I normally store all the food in these awesome containers, snag yours here

Also one of my faves for when I don’t really have time to pull out the Ninja blender is the mash and feed set !

4. Binxy Baby Hammocks

These shopping hammocks are not only cute but so easy to store. I keep my right inside the car and it really helps to give Axel a break from sitting in his car seat.

It easily clips into most shopping carts and can be used from birth to 50lbs

5. Squeasy Gear

Omg these silicone reusable pouches have literally saved my mommy life this past weekend when I decided to stop and get the kids smoothies and while driving I noticed that JAGGER took the top off his smoothie and was using his hand. Yes his hand…. ughhhh so I pulled over and poured his entire smoothie into a squeasy gear and mannnn it was a game changer! No mess no fussing.

Axel also uses them and they are perfect for feeding baby food on the go!

Well I hope these items can help your mommy lifestyle as much as they have helped me! Until next time…..

XO,

Meka

Momtourage Monday- Dealing with a Tongue Tie

1. How would you define Momtourage?

Momtourage to me is my support group. My Mom is my very best helper and my whole Momtourage would fall apart without her. She helps with Bryson whenever I’m in a bind. She offers to pick him up early from daycare. She cooks for him and makes fun toys for him. The rest of my Momtourage is made up of my other Mommy friends near and far. My best friends that I’ve made through work who share crazy stories daily and my distant best friends in California with toddlers. We keep each other sane. I think that’s the most important part of your support group; relating and encouraging each other.

2. How do you balance Motherhood?

Some days I feel like I’m teetering on a thin wire between being a Mommy and working full time and pleasing others. It’s not always easy. I’ve made a promise to myself to make sure I take a small amount of time for me when it allows (sometimes having to remind my boyfriend it’s time for a much needed Mommy break). Whether that’s an extended hot shower, a trip to the salon for a pedi or going to bed early. I absolutely cherish sleep so an extra hour means the world to me. I also take advantage of ordering take out instead of spending hours in the kitchen. I’d rather sit on the floor with my kid playing cars.

3. What is your Mommy must have item?

My camera. I’m photo obsessed and don’t wanna miss a thing. I love photography and trying to capture all of the insanely cute moments. Since it’s on my iPhone it doubles as last minute entertainment when we are on the go and I need to make Bryson sit still for more than 2.5 seconds.

4. What is your Momtourage Story?

Bryson’s father and I met the day we both started at US Airways. He couldn’t take his eyes off of me! More like the other way around. We started dating, moved in together the next year, traveled the world and 5 years later brought our amazing little boy into this world. My Mom, Dad and sister are nearby. Brian’s family is mostly in Delaware and Maryland. We travel when we can to visit and see everyone.

As much as we are alike we are also very different. I’m hyper and stubborn while Brian is very level headed and calm. We balance each other very well most days. Bryson’s little personality is starting to shine through and he has traits from both of us that are very unique. It’s so amazing to see him grow and watch him change. We both love to travel and hope Bryson does too someday. So far so good! His first trip was to Cancun, Mexico. He’s also been to Charleston and Philly and Los Angeles to meet his cousins.

When Bryson was born I promised myself to breastfeed him for at least six months. My goal was really his first year. Brian and I both felt very strongly about not using formula if at all possible. Most women probably say the birth was the hardest part. Breastfeeding for me was a total nightmare for the first 12 weeks. Bryson didn’t latch well and fell asleep while feeding every single time. We tried every position except upside down. I went back and forth to the hospital lactation team and no one knew what was wrong. They kept telling me to increase my supply, rest and just be patient. He’s a “lazy eater” was the common term used. I felt so awful and so alone.

No one understood the physical pain I was in trying to feed my son the only food he could eat. He was losing weight. The final straw came when the pain was so severe I screamed when he latched on. I went back to the hospital the next day and asked to speak with the lactation nurse that had the most experience. This nurse watched him latch on and immediately saw the problem. She instantly knew he was tongue tied and needed surgery immediately. She checked his mouth to confirm. 2 days later we were in a doctors office in Charlotte having the procedure. Within days it was like I had a different baby. I healed up, he gained weight and all was right in the world. I breastfed him for just over a year and we never had to use formula. That year was by far the most rewarding experience of my life. Our bond is so strong and I feel certain it’s related to the time and patience we had with each other.

I also learned doctors aren’t always right. Sometimes a second and third opinion are well worth it. Don’t give up on your goals. Many people tried to talk me out of breastfeeding. We stuck with our beliefs and accomplished our goal together. I’ve also learned the importance of talking to relieve anxiety and stress. Don’t bottle those feelings up. You’ll eventually explode. Stay strong Mamas!

Thank you Meredith for sharing your story, as always we hope that these stories can encourage another mother. Until next week….

XO,

Meka

Momtourage Monday- Super Mom of 6!

1. How would you define Momtourage? 

I would define Momtourage as your mommy support group. It doesn’t necessarily even mean that they have children. It’s your go-to squad of people that have helped you survive motherhood.

2. How do you balance Motherhood? 

 I balance motherhood by making sure I devote time to spending with my little ones, but I also have no problem saying I need a break. Usually, once a day, I find somewhere to go and just sit in silence. It’s necessary for my sanity. Once I get home I’m mentally able to handle everyone because they’re like Velcro. 

3. What is your Mommy must have item? 

My phone 

4. What is your Momtourage story? 

Whew…... So I am a separated mom of 6 boys ages 13,11,7,7,7&4 trying to get accustomed to my pending single status and have an amicable split from their dad. I want nothing more than for us to be the best co-parents we can be. 

 I was a school teacher and realized that I wasn’t passionate about it so now I am a Site Coordinator with Communities in Schools all while trying to rebuild my business—which is a drop-in child care center. 

 When people ask me how I do it…forget the career they’re usually just talking about having 6 boys—all I can say is take it one day at a time. Don’t lose sight of who you are. Make time for yourself, make time for your children.

Everything doesn’t cost money. A dance contest in the living room, a picnic in the park, a weekend slumber party in the living room or basement are things that create lasting memories and a ton of money isn’t  being spent. Quality time is key. I’m not perfect and I don’t want to be, but my children think I’m awesome!

Thank you April for sharing your story of Motherhood, as always I hope that these transparent stories will help someone and I hope you enjoyed it! Until next week.

XO,

Meka