The SHADE of living in 2 different cities…

Many of my close family and friends know the inside scoop on our process of moving from Winston to the Raleigh area.  Today I’m sharing the SHADE  we had to go through to make it work!

SUPPORT – Living in 2 separate cities so that we can fully transition to the Raleigh area was tough!  We agreed that it’s best to let Elle finish out the 3rd grade in her current school which meant we really needed to sacrifice and we needed an amazing support team.  The boys and I stayed with my in laws M-F then we went home to Winston on the weekends to be with JoColby and Elle.  I’m so blessed that my in laws have enough space that we were extremly comfortable during this process.  They boys have their own room and I stayed in Elle’s room.  We basically had the entire upstairs to ourselves.

HUNT– While we were making this sacrifice for our children we were always on the hunt.  Looking at different neighborhoods, trying to find the perfect schools.  We actually found our 3 favorite locations but it wasn’t until my husband brought in our amazing realator Chantel of Be Home Realty, I knew the hunt would be over soon.  We gave Chantel our budget and she was all over it.  When she sent us the listing to our current  home I instantly gave her the side eye because the pictures on Zillow made the home look so dark and gloomy.  Once I stepped into the house I knew THIS was our home! The process was seamless thanks to the work of Chantel and our amazing broker Phillip Harris of Blackhawk Mortgage!  We highly recommend them when you’re ready to make that move.

ACCOUNTABILITY– Living in seperate cities from your spouse and child/ children we had to hold each other accountable. We made sure we utilized FaceTime, weekends were for us to reconnect.  I will admit it was so hard to hand off the baton and leave Elle with her father.  Often times I wondered if it was worth it, will she be effected not having her mother M-F? Whenever I was in doubt I prayed.  I knew that these 7 months ( November- June) would fly by and boy did they.

DEVOTED – because this was such a major change in our family dynamics, we devoted one on one time with each other.  I made sure that I incorporated Mommy/ Daughter dates so that I could stay in tune with Elle and her thoughts throughout this process. We also worked on a journal together as well.  In addition to this I also made sure that  JoColby and I had a monthly date night. We wanted to make sure our foundation was strong especially since he just got back from deployment and BOOM our family is divided.

EXCITEMENT– through all of the sacrifices we remained excited about our future.  The thoughts of a new home, with more room so that we can invite our friends and family over, a place where our children will grow, the thoughts of our family being back in the same city again. We remained humble and excited during the entire process.  Most importantly we are THANKFUL.

Have you ever lived in a separate city from your spouse or child? What did you learn during the process? Until next time….

XO,

Meka

Staycation Date Night Edition

Often times as parents we get caught up in the daily hustle and bustle of #MomLife and forget how our kids actually got here. I’m so guilty and I know I’m not alone, so going forward I’m making an effort to date my husband!

Thanks to our amazing friends at the AC Hotel, JoColby and I were able to get away from the kids and focus on ourselves. We checked into this amazing hotel located in the North Hills Area of Raleigh on Friday night.

Everyone at the hotel was so helpful and gracious to have us stay. After checking in, I spotted some cool local snacks they had available, I love that the feature local businesses.

After checking in we headed to our room to drop off our bags. I loved that the room was so chic and I truly appreciate the floors. I seriously dread hotel carpets because of how dirty the are! This room made me feel at home, the modern floor plan as well as the all around feel was a plus in my book.

After checking out the roomwe headed upstairs to Level 7 Rooftop Bar for cocktails and tapas.

I never really drink but tonight I wanted something sweet with a little tang. So I tried the infamous Midtown Margarita and boy was it a treat! The toasted Citrus Salmon was absolutely delicious. But the crisp potato wedges OMG so yummy. JoColby really enjoyed the roasted wings. I highly recommend getting several tapas and sharing them you will be full in no time.

The atmosphere at Level 7 was great, everyone was enjoying their company, drinks and the game. This would be a great alternative to going out. I’m always looking for a fun locations for date night or just hanging with your crew.

After drinks, amazing tapas and lots of laughs we took an Uber to downtown Raleigh.

After several recommendations we ended up at the Boxcar Arcade this was the perfect place, it was like a flashback to my childhood!

JoColby and I played games until we couldn’t hang anymore! Everything from PacMan, Tetris, Mario, Ping pong the list goes on, and not to mention PopCorn… which I actually didn’t eat because of my OCD We didn’t stay out too long because the way our bodies are set up…. we got tired from dinner and cocktails. Once we got back too the room we decided to watch a movie and boy were we in for a surprise when we saw that we could sign into Netflix!

I can’t thank the AC Hotel enough for such an amazing and relaxing stay! Boy did we need some alone time and we were refreshed the next morning to pick up the kids and have family day! The next time you’re looking for a hotel please book with AC Hotel it’s the perfect place for a staycation, getaway or family travel! Trust me you won’t be disappointed. Until next time…..

XO,

Meka

Mommy & Mav Date

Being a mommy of 4, you’re constantly pulled into several different directions and it doesn’t get any better as your kids get older! One thing I try to do to help is scheduling one on one time with each of my kiddos. Yesterday Maveric and I were able to check out a pre-viewing of the Beanstalk the musical thanks to our friends at the Raleigh Little Theater. The play official showcases tonight until April 1st.

The show is just as we remember the book as a child. Young Jack, eager to please his mother climbs the Beanstalk to retrieve golden coins, a hen that lays golden eggs and back again for the magical harp. Unlike the book, the musical is packed with entertainment and several laughs! The actors did an absolutely amazing job. The one thing I really loved was that the play was just the right amount of time to keep Maveric entertained and no tired. With the show being 1 hour long, it’s perfect for families of all ages.

Last night was such a perfect way to spend our Mommy/Son Date, we laughed, we were intrigued and Maveric had several questions after the performance which will have us at the library today to check out the book.

I highly recommend incorporating the arts into children’s lives early on, even if you have to bring babies and tag team with a friend to the lobby when they need a break, do it! The earlier you start the better and more open minded they will become.

A huge thank you to our friends at the Raleigh Little Theater for allowing us to experience such a fun memory together. Be sure to check out upcoming plays here . I personally would love to see Alice and Wonderland with Elle next month.

What shows are you looking forward to check out? Whatever you choose enjoy it and take your little one with you. Until next time…..

XO,

Meka